Thursday, June 27, 2013

Getting Ready, etc

I don't know how a person can be busy and yet not busy at the same time.  I have time to rest and lots of precious morning time to do my quiet time but with Adelle, Cecelia, Homestead, water run class, parents who live out of town, and now Oklahoma, I am a busy chick.  Jesi and I are wanting to meet and it was nearly impossible to find a time.  I guess I did squeeze a little trip in to LA, didn't I?  A friend asked me yesterday if I am always on the go.  I answered her that I am either all the way up and going or flat on my back relaxing.
Yesterday I went to water run and worked 'em hard and it felt great!  Then I picked up Adelle and hurried around and we went to see Man of Steel.  It was entertaining, interesting, too long.  There were definitely parallels to Christ which made it awkward for hi. To kiss the girl, in my opinion, and then references to evolution being evil.  Interesting.  Adelle and I watched her show and I ran her home.
Then Scott and I went to a couple of meetings in preparation for the Oklahoma trip this weekend.  It's going to be quite interesting with the mix of people going.  A challenge for our leadership skills for sure, but not for God!  
Today holds step this morning to get it out of the way, a haircut, them laundry, trip to Target, packing, various chores and to do list items, Homestead small group and hopefully, some resting.  Tomorrow is meeting with Jesi, water run, last minute prep and leave for Oklahoma at 2.  
Whew!  Did I mention I am enjoying summer?

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Mama

I finally got to see my Mama today!  Left at 10 this morning and drove through some rain (yuck) and had to pee horribly since I'm trying to flush my sinusus put.  Stopped twice.  Got there at noon and mom wanted to go out for lunch and dinner!  We went to Harbor Lights,  a Christian coffee shop and cafe and guess who we ran into!  Dave!  We ate a light lunch ( I had a sandwich, mom had a salad). Then we walked around an antique mall in downtown lv town.  Then we drove out to look at dave and Ronnie's new property then went to the house for a nap.  We chatted then went to the garage to look at cool trunks and some old pictures.  I took pictures because she said I can have a trunk but its hard to decide which one!  We then went to a church service planning meeting at the church.  I have to say a few things about that because it was pretty hilarious.  It was dave and mom and three other ladies.  They needed to plan the music, the hymns, all the details of the service.  They have so many private jokes and they so easily got off track that it was absolutely hilarious and amazing that they actually got the service planned on the allotted half hour!  Then Mama and I went out for dinner.  The Chinese place she wanted to go was closed so we went to a sleazy Chinese buffet.  What is it about buffets that attracts heavy people?  There were only a few people in there who were less than fifty pounds overweight.  I had to wonder what the skinny Chinese waitresses think about white all,of us are pigging out.  I ,myself, went back three times:).  It was good to spend time with Mom today.  I don't get up there near enough.  


Saturday, June 22, 2013

A Change of Pace

Scott and I made a trip to Topeka today to have dinner at our old friend Eric's house.  We first stopped off and chatted a couple of hours with Julie and her puppy, Boo, then went out to,Lake Sherwood in Topeka.  Eric and his wife, Vicky, live in a nice home right on the little lake.  I didn't even know Lake Sherwood existed.  It's a nice little lake a bit larger than Wabaunsee with beautiful homes all around it.  We ate burgers on the deck then went for a ride around the lake on the pontoon boat.  Eric and Vucky have two beautiful rescue dogs, a golden and a golden chow mix and they came along on the boat.  It was a very enjoyable evening.  



Drama

I want to be sketchy since this is a public blog.....but there has been a lot of drama with the ministry I volunteer with, Homestead.  These girls are so brave to leave everything and everyone they've known to come here and start a new way of life.  They have no idea where to start and have few tools to draw on.  Many are giving up drugs and are facing pain they haven't had to feel in a long time.  They have such strong emotions they don't know how to handle.  They are just figuring out Who God is and all He can be in their lives.  It is very cool to watch them learn how to reach out to Him and how to rest in His arms but they are overwhelmed and scared and its all so new for them and so hard.  The girls really lean on each other and help each other but there is so much togetherness and they don't have all the skills they need to get along so its super stressful.  And as they resort to old, destructive patterns which don't work here, it causes drama and difficult situations for all of us.  We are exploring new territory and finding that the secular system has severe limits in helping them.  All we can do sometimes is pray with them and hold them.  They are so hungry for God and want Him so much but also don't know how to reach Him or how to accept all He offers.  And it is hard.  The house Mom, Sandy, has such a hard job and really no breaks.  God is loving the girls through her.  She makes mistakes, we all do, but the girls know she loves them.  Some meaningful quotes I've  heard from the girls lately:  After being told "I love you", one of the girls said, "I'm not used to that, I've never really had that."  After a huge rage, we were discussing strengths and pointed out that one of the gals is strong and she said, "hell yes I'm strong" then quickly teared up and said, "but I'm not really all that strong."  When I was up all night with a gal in the ER even though I felt like crap, one of the girls said, "I don't understand why you are doing this for me."  These girls are amazing.  Will you please pray for them?  They are T, C, D, S, and T.  Pray God continues to give us wisdom, too, and strength and endless compassion.  

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Home

Yesterday I got up and had quiet time on the porch with Cheerios and iced coffee and was joined by Joel.  We showered up then took off for campus as he had to work.  I hung out in the coffee shop, oh, I blogged from there, and then I walked to the bookstore.  I bought Scott a coffee mug and Dad a putter cover then went back to the library.  Joel came out and said he could get off work early,  this gave us time to walk over to a market area for lunch.  We walked under the freeway to a part of LA I hadn't been in before. It felt like a foreign country.  And I was starting to feel sad about leaving Joel.
We decided to eat Thai food because the Mexican was just a bit too authentic And the other choice was burgers.  We ate and Joel,bought a Royals hat then walked the long way back to his house.  I packed and we eventually left for the airport.  Mike drove us in his car which was a huge relief because Joel is not ready for the freeway in his car and LAX can be crazy busy.  I hugged Joel hard, hugged Mike, then Joel said he got the last hug.  I went into the aiort and began my uneventful trip home through Phoenix.  It was good to see Scott and I talked all the way back to Manhattan.  The roads in Kansas are like driving on velvet compared to all the other states I drove in on my trip (6 by the way-- Kansas, Colorado, Utah, Arizona, Nevada, and California).  
Today Scott is still,asleep and I feel lonely, tired, a bit disoriented, and happy to be home all at the same time.  I still feel like I'm with Joel, that I could just walk into his kitchen and eat my leftover Thai food or say hi to his friends.  I need to talk to him today and get settled in here.  And I need lots of sleep.  Off to teach water jog then go grocery shopping!



Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Monday night with Joel

We relaxed all evening and I napped then Joel left for a meeting.  Yes, he drove his new car with the manual transmission.  I walked to the grocery store two blocks away to get Joel some stamps and coconut oil.  When I got back, I wanted to sit in Joel's room and wad but I realized I have such a short time here so I went out back to join his friends.  There are 11 people that live in the DKA house, about half are girls.  Each are unique and very nice.  I like them all.  I invited Jill who was in the living room to join me and then sat and talked with Hunter and Allison, Jill, and Sarah until Joel returned.  mike came shortly after that.  He is 24, a lot of fun, super friendly and helpful.  I enjoyed talking to the kids.  Allison's mom's name is Debbie Clark and she's a clinical social worker.  Turns out Sarah's mom is too!  After awhile, Clarisse came blowing in full of hugs.  She came just to see me!  We had a great time just hanging out chatting.  At some point they set up tables for their variation of beer pong, called triangle pong.  After a brief debate in front of me on whether or not to drink with me there, they unanimously decided to go for it!  It looked like so much fun, I joined them!  Joel didn't know what to think about me chugging my beers on my turn as he was sipping his.  You gotta get back in the game!  We didn't drink all that much at all but we did laugh quite a bit.  The kids got a kick out of me putting a pic of it on my Facebook wall.  
I turned in to bed eventually and Joel came to get his guitars to play then slept on the couch again.  
I slep well again then We got up this morning and had Cheerios on the front porch then got ready and walked on campus for Joel's job number two out of three jobs.  He works in the cinematic arts room in the basement of the library.  I am set up in a courtyard outside a coffee shop within the library.  He works til one then we'll grab a bite to eat then Mike will take me to the airport.  Joel decided he's not ready after all to drive his stick car to the airport.  Whew!  
I've had such a great visit here.  I still can't believe I drove here by myself.  In some ways it seems like a huge deal but then it seems like not that big a deal at all!  God was with me for sure.  I really like Joel's friends and his house and lifestyle.  I don't care for the driving here at all and think the standard transmission may be less than ideal.  He is thrilled with his car, though.  I saw parts of LA that I hadn't seen before this time which I liked but there are too many people and cars.  I really felt more of a culture shock this time that I had on my previous visits.  So excellent to spend time with Joel.  He's such a great kid.  



Monday, June 17, 2013

Joel Monday

I woke up at seven Cali time and it was super quiet at the house.  I slept really well.  I made my way to the front porch and there was poor Jill, Joel s ex.  She'd been locked out of her apartment and stayed with a friend who had to leave for work.  We sat and chatted for quite awhile.  She s cue and nice.  I hope she and Joel work out the friendship.  Joel just isn't ready for something serious right now.  We drank iced coffee and ate Cheerios and i did my Bible study.  Joel got up around nine so i showered and made him done eggs.
We decided to go to Santa Monica so we got back on the freeway and went about 20 miles.  Santa Monica is pretty, remind me somewhat of the plaza area in kc.  We walked around and got Joel some shorts in a thrift store Hannah and Leah would have loved.  We went to the pier and had coffee then meet Joel s friend Mike. We went to the arcade and played a few games including air hockey then i had to go put my feet in the ocean. The beach was crazy crowded and Mike showed me the sand crabs.  Yuck.
We then spent the next hour or so driving around to restaurants that were all closed and grabbed a buffer at Islands.  I think that makes about five burgers in a row for me now.
One more crazy trip on the freeway and we are now back at the house testing.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Joel Day One

I am tired which makes it even more surreal that I am here.... Joel and I have organized his room, folded his laundry, taught him to drive a stick, walked across campus to Chipotle, bought a meal for a homeless person and grocery shopped all since I got here.  He is now playing his guitar for me.  

I am.alive and.in LA

I am still shaKing from the Los Angeles freeway but i am here.i thought was doing great then the freeway started doing insane things.i called Joel panicked then found his exit and had to  change like 50 lanes but i am here!

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Almost There!

I drove 650 miles today.  Finished one book on cd and started another.  Stopped in Salina, Utah and ate at a Mexican restaurant for an early dinner then back on the road.  Scott and I texted and talked and planned ahead and i drove right to the Clarion Suites he reserved for me in St George, Utah.  I saw the pool while checking in, threw my stuff in the room and changed and was out in the pool within 5 minutes.  I tread water then relaxed and shut my eyes then sat in the hot tub.  Back in the room I did my Bible study then finally got my blog to post!  Am now lying in bed trying to unwind. 
Tomorrow I only have 391 miles to drive and I will be with Joel.  


Saturday afternoon on the road

It is now 4pm ish local time and I am in Salina, Utah.  The first part of Utah was desolate, just rocks.  Then I went up through winding unique mountains with really pretty rock formations, colorful, hard to describe.  It was a lot harder driving then in the Colorado mountains but Joel's little car did great!  I stopped at two overlooks mostly because its really pretty!  I walked to the top of one and took pictures of both.  My pictures do not do it justice and the best pics would have been way up high but it wasn't safe to take them while driving.
I have two hours 45 minutes left to go today.  I finished one book on cd and have started another one, both really god whichever helps!  Joel texted and said to drive on and get there tonight!  No way I can drive that far!  I felt like my head was going to explode when I stopped here.  Scott is making me a AAA reservation in St George.  Better planning than last night!
Scott texted me on the road and said I am a great adventurer!






Adventure continued

This morning I got up in my tiny motel room and life looked a lot brighter.  I am now in Vail about 90 miles down the road.  I am actually having fun!  The air is crisp and clean and bright and cool.  The mountains are beautiful and fun to drive on.  The brakes in Joel's car work really well.  Gonna take it easy today but my goal is 700 miles.  That will be the farthest I've ever driven by myself.  Last night was the second time I've stayed Ina hotel room alone!  

Pictures later I promise.


Road trippin

The second half of yesterday was not fun, in fact, bordered on harrowing.  Just outside Goodland, the wind really kicked up.  Dust was blowing then we came into construction two lane traffic.  I was behind a semi and the wind was blowing so strongly that the truck seemed like it was driving sideways.  There were semis going the other way facing me, also.  I pulled off at a rest stop but there were only truckers there so I was afraid to get out of the car.  I tried to nap in the back seat until the car stopped rocking so badly in the wind.  When I set out again, there was less traffic and a bit less wind.  I did drive through rain on and off but it didn't get the roads crazy wet and there were not many cars.  

It was clear before I got to Denver.  I was pretty tired but the motels I saw were in a sketchy part of town then I was downtown.  The next hotels looked super expensive.  I missed a couple of cheap hotels and the next thing I knew, I was out of Denver and starting up into the mountains.  So I turned around.  I was too tired to get my app to work so I stopped at two hotels that were two expensive, $119 and $94 then one that didn't have a room.  The guy there helped me call Motel 6 and gave me directions.  

I had a little trouble unwinding to fall asleep after so,e caffeine consumed yesterday but did finally sleep.  

All in all day one I went 500 miles!  

Pictures later.

Friday, June 14, 2013

The Adventure Roadtrip

First stop is Colby, Kansas.  Needed gas, an empty bladder and to stretch.  I have gone about 290 miles (I think) in 3 plus hours.  I baked the first couple of hours and had to cover my legs so I didn't burn but then it clouded over.  It started raining about five miles ago and I hate hate hate driving in the rain since our wreck so I was really happy to stop.  It doesn't look like it will continue but I will check the weather.  I am at McDonald's.  not my favorite place to eat but free wifi.  
My confidence in Joel's car is growing.  The a/c and cruise control work really well.  The wipers not so much but I hope I don't need them much.  I am a little bored but am alternating between singing at the top of my lungs to my iPod and listening to a book on tape, Tapestry of Fortunes by Elizabeth Berg.  It's pretty good.  I think the characters are gearing up for a road trip themselves which is fun.  More later!  Only 1200 more miles and 21 hours to LA!  


Last minute prep

I am packed.  Enjoying myself and relaxing.  Went to Target as I was packing and purchased a new backpack and duffle bag for the trip.  Just hanging out til water jog waiting for the washer repair man.  


Thursday, June 13, 2013

O wow I'm really doing this

My stomach is flipping out that I am actually going to do this.  Leaving tomorrow.

The Adventurous Road Trip Vol. 1

I am driving to California!  I have always wanted to drive across the United States by myself for some reason and now I get to do it!  Tomorrow!  Here is  how this came  about:

Three days ago, I saw a great little car, a 2005 grey Ford Focus with only 76,000 miles, sitting in the Target parking lot with a for sale sign on it.  The price was right in the range Joel was looking for.  I called Scott and he said call the guy.  I called Joel and he said go for it.  Long story short, I bought the car, insured and tagged it, got new brakes and the oil changed and I am going to drive it to Joel.  Everything just fell into place!  I fly back on Tuesday.

I spent last evening looking over routes and decided to go Interstate over the Rockies.  The other ways take longer and are scary hot.  I am a little worried about the car going too slow up the mountains and being in the way of the big trucks but am also looking forward to the view of the Rockies!

I am spending today packing, gathering snacks and books on CD, stuff like that.  

My plan tomorrow is to teach my water class in the morning, shower and finish packing, lunch with work friends for Greg's last day, then pack up and take off about two!  I will drive as far as possible stopping for a quick bite to eat and try to make it to the other side of Denver.  About ten or eleven I will use my yelp app on the phone to find the cheapest place to stay.  I will sleep, shower, then get back on the road Saturday.  I will drive as long as I want, stop whenever I want, go through the mountains and get as far as possible into Utah then look for another cheap place to sleep.  I will get up Sunday morning and head into California and to Joel!  We'll have Sunday evening, all day Monday which is ironically Joel's only day off, and Monday night.  He works a few hours on Tuesday morning and then will take me to the airport.  For the first time that I have visited Joel, we will have a car to drive!  

Obviously there are many prayer requests here.  For safety, that the car goes well, that I find cheap, safe places to stay, health....  Also pray that Joel easily learns to drive a stick!  Ha!

So I will take you with me on this adventure.  Stay tuned!  


Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Summer so far

Shari birthday party
Scott spider bite
 My swollen eye
Hanging out on the deck 
Reading
Sleeping
Lots of quiet time
dee Brestin idols lies
Pool with Adelle 
Step aerobics
Crazy corn
Moore with Scott
Visit to dad
Season birthday at Topeka Olive Garden
Water run cold week one
Water run hot full class week two
Leah visit with David
Baa'an Thai
Professor doesn't live here anymore
Watering plants and grass
Lots of drama at Homestead
Cecelia to church with me
Finally bible study gets together!
More reading
Some cleaning

Monday, June 3, 2013

Moore

     We got an email from the church right after the tornado went through Moore, Oklahoma that they'd be taking teams down.  We emailed that we were available and then started making plans.  School wasn't even out yet.  We almost went with the first team last weekend but I did not feel emotionally ready and Scott was still not 100percent from his spider bite.  So we went Wednesday night to the meeting and committed to go this weekend.  
      I made several trips to thrift stores to get work gloves and snacks and work pants and to look for boots.  I got some army pants at a thrift store and then looked at Walmart for boots.  All they had were men's boots and they didn't fit me then a sales lady came out and showed me these awesome work shoes with steel toes, thick soles and pink on them!  Perfect!  I even found pink work gloves in the gardening section.
     Tuesday Richard Bryant face booked messaged me to ask if we were going.  I was happy since he was a lot of fun in Joplin.  We went to the organizing meeting on Wednesday and met two of the guys who would be going, Roger, and Mike.  Richard called Thursday night to say that his friend Mike was going too, Mike's first mission.  Mike was going to take his truck and pull a trailer with a skid loader so we offered to take our car, too.  Richard told us to meet at the church parking lot and we'd load up and try to get out of Manhattan by 3 putting us in Moore about 8:30.
     We left the house early all packed and ready to go.  We got the the church and waited and waited. We finally got a hold of Richard and he said he'd be there around 3.  He showed up at 3:30.  He had texted and said we should just hop in with them since the truck was a king cab.  So we threw all our stuff into the back and started to load up.  As we were loading, Scott commented that it was supposed to rain in Oklahoma and was concerned about the stuff getting wet.  I happened to notice and point out a large split in one of the trailer tires.  So they called to see if we could go get the tire changed.  They had us follow them there and we all put our soft belongings in the back of our car.  It was going to be awhile so Scott and I decided to just go ahead in our car.
     As we left Kansas and got into Oklahoma, we could see huge black clouds on the horizon.  We were listening to xm sports talk and I convinced Scott to put on a local station.  They were reporting really bad storms and probable tornadoes.  We kept going carefully then when they started reporting tornadoes for sure, we left the interstate and went to a McDonalds in Blackwell, Oklahoma.  We looked at the radar and watched the news and heard about the tornadoes causing more damage and heading to the same area was that had been hit.  There were many motorists on the interstate on Oklahoma where cars were flipped and people were injured and killed and then flash flooding.  We were prayng hard for the people.  We pretty much had decided to stay there in Blackwell when the team caught up with us.  They decided to go on and see how far they could go even through the highway patrol was saying not to go into the city at all.  
     One of out team members, Mike, had gone ahead of us by himself since he had a wedding to attend near Moore.  We got a call from him and he said that he was in Norman and a tornado was headed there, too.  He ended up riding out part of the storm in a Walmart parking lot and slept all night in his truck.
      Scott and I slept well in a Hotel in Blackwell and got up at 530 and got on the road by 6.  We got to into Moore around 745 and there was power out and cars wrecked and stalled along the road blocks from the church.  
     We arrived at the small, older Weslyan church in May just as the team was starting their devotions.  Mike arrived around the same time.  We met 6 guys from a ministry called Poured Out.  These guys run a not for profit ministry that go to all the natural disasters as well as building wells and purified water systems in third world countries.  They are the guys who built a shower trailer that we used gratefully in Joplin.  They had caravaned from Michigan with all kinds of large equipment and plan to stay in Moore for most of the summer.  They started doing this with Katrina and had more recently done a lot of work with hurricane Sandy and all the disasters in between.  These guys are sold out for Jesus and they are crazy fun.
      So we set out to work Saturday morning after devotions at around 9.  We went to one of the neighborhoods hardest hit, blocks of destroyed houses with various stacks of belongings, lots of belongings and materials strewn around the lots and smashed vehicles everywhere.  There were groups of people milling around dressed alike in either bright t shirts or white hard hats.  There are several groups that do disaster work around the country.  We were wearing neon yellow shirts that the Poured Out guys gave us.
      We pulled up near some of the skid loaders and no one really explained what to do.  The equipment was pushing piles of stuff around.  Finally they said to pull out scrap metal from the piles and put it in separate piles then eventually load it onto trailers.  Turns out, that is one of the ways the Poured Out guys cover their costs.  So perfect, recycle, help out  a great ministry and allow them to really help the homeowners.  That is what we did for much of the first day.  Richard and I had a two hour side track as we agreed to go the the scrap metal yard which turned out to be closed and ran out of gas because gas pumps need electricity and much of Moore is still without electricity.
      We slept at the church on cots.  The church is old, leaky, and moldy but the people were very nice.
      The second day, we went to the back of the lots where the skid loaders couldn't get because it was too muddy and we just cleaned.  Much of what we cleaned up was house materials; boards, roof shingles, siding, but there are people's belongings all mixed in; clothes, toys, broken furniture, dishes, toothbrushes, etc.  none of it salvageable.  It's really sad.
     This kind of work is extremely tiring and you have to let go of all sanitation and hygiene needs.  We peed in a disgusting Johnny on the spot a long walk away.  The weather was really nice, sunny, a cool breeze.  We ate fabulously because there was a group from Texas there who had taken up donations, brought a large smoker and sat there grilling brisket, chicken, steak, and bacon which we had for three meals.  And we snacked and munched all day.
      On these trips, I always pray for divine appointments.  I didn't feel that occurred so much this time but we did get lots of chances to talk to homeowners and let them tell their stories and just provide emotional support.  We heard some stories about how they rode out the storm, five adults in a closet holding the door shut, several families with kids that had been in the school where kids died but theirs were ok, three dogs that a family found unharmed later, a guy wandering around looking for his car that must have gotten carried far.  People were really scared again on Friday night when the second storm hit.  Many tried to run.  Most seemed really positive, grateful to be alive and uninjured, hopeful about rebuilding.  All of those I spoke to, I estimate about eight, expressed a strong faith in God.  We were able to offer help to two additional families.  Two ladies had pulled up and just looked overwhelmed.  When we said we'd sign them up for free assistance to get their lot cleaned up, they were really relieved and happy and hugged us.  All the people were incredibly grateful to all the volunteers who had come to help.
      The guys noticed another tire problem before we left but quickly got that changed out.  We got home late Sunday evening.
      We will be leading a group down again the end of June.  This was a good experience overall but it feels like for the effort involved, we did so very little.  I was happy to have gotten a chance to visit with so many of the homeowners.  They will need continued prayer and help.